This week, Elsie is sharing an enormous private replace (a yr within the making)!
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Present Notes
Elsie is transferring!!!
Why we determined to maneuver:
-We now not have a profession cause to dwell in Nashville
-One among our mother and father had a well being scare
-To see Emma and Oscar extra
Favourite issues concerning the new home:
-Curb enchantment, appears to be like like a film home
-Hearth within the kitchen
-A lot of potential
Very first thing Elsie purchased:
Lighting fixtures (classic and new). Listed here are some hyperlinks: Metallic Lanterns / Hand Sconce / 3-Mild Chandelier / Spherical Chandelier
What we’ll miss most about our house in Tennessee:
-Buddies
–Hewitt Backyard and Design Middle
-Our hidden library and library eating room
What Emma is worked up for:
-Working collectively
-Being a extra current aunt
-Recording the podcast collectively
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Episode 171 Transcript:
Elise: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week I’m sharing an enormous private replace a yr within the making, so seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m transferring again to my hometown in Missouri.
Emma: Dum, dum, dum, dum.
Elise: I can’t consider it. Emma was simply saying, we really feel like now we have been speaking about this for a yr as a result of it was like a really slow-coming resolution on our half and one thing that we’ve been engaged on for a very long time. However we wished to attend till it was very official to share it right here. So yeah, it feels unusual to lastly discuss.
Emma: Yeah, and sadly we already named an episode, “Oops, I’m transferring once more” so we will’t reuse that, nevertheless it’s true as soon as once more.
Elise: Sure, completely. So, one thing that I noticed about myself sort of not too long ago, despite the fact that it’s been occurring my whole life, is that I’m obsessive about change, completely continually. So the longest I’ve ever lived in any house was for 4 and a half years the place we lived in our first house in Tennessee the place we adopted our children and every little thing. In order that’s the longest I’ve ever lived wherever since I moved out from my father or mother’s home. However more often than not I’ve moved yearly or two, which I don’t like that about myself. I don’t condone it as a very good life-style. I don’t suppose it’s wholesome, and it’s not what I need for my children sooner or later, however I’m admitting that it’s true. And that it’s one thing that has all the time been, I’ll all the time be only a one who has loads of itch for change. So I assume I’m gonna have to determine a solution to categorical that in different methods.
Emma: Yeah, I believe expressing in different methods is an effective solution to put it. Trigger I really don’t suppose it’s unhealthy to crave change and to wish to transfer and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s truthfully like fairly regular. I simply suppose your life’s now at a spot, you already know, you was once like after highschool and stuff, you’re single and you then get married and it’s simply you two, after which, you already know, however, and yeah, so now you’ve much more folks to contemplate. It impacts much more folks in the event you transfer now than it used to, and so naturally I believe may need to vary considerably, however I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy to crave change and to need a contemporary begin. I believe that’s actually fairly regular. I simply suppose there are loads of methods to specific it.
Elise: Yeah. And I do need my children to have a childhood house that they bear in mind as their childhood house, not like 10. I like absolutely admit that. However anyway, we nonetheless are the place we’re proper now. So let’s inform this complete story as a result of I do know from simply having informed my shut pals over the previous yr, I do know all of the questions individuals are gonna ask and there are such a lot of legitimate questions. So to start out out the story, why we determined to maneuver, cuz the home we dwell in now, we utterly adore it. There’s nothing about it aside from the truth that it’s not outdated, there’s nothing about it I might change, I really like this house. I’m actually proud of the initiatives we did. I added all my fake fireplaces and bookshelves and the hidden library, which is like my soulmate mission of my life. And we adore it right here and now we have nothing dangerous to say about Nashville. Not one single factor, not even the bachelorettes. Nothing to say dangerous. We’ve beloved our complete eight years right here and I believe that we simply realized after we moved right here throughout the Covid period, that Jeremy’s profession had modified. So we moved right here initially cuz my husband was engaged on his profession in songwriting. And he did loads of songwriting. He did loads of the songwriting that you simply watch on television. In the event you see a film like, what’s that film with Woman Gaga? Have you learnt what I imply? And Bradley Cooper.
Emma: Yeah, A Star is Born.
Elise: Sure. Like that form of factor the place folks like to take a seat down with a guitar and really write a tune collectively. Individuals in Nashville do this on a regular basis, and Jeremy tried that, however it’s simply not how his inventive mind works. So he hasn’t been doing that for some time, however he would form of work nearly with folks and he was nonetheless songwriting just about since I met. However during the last couple years, he began this different enterprise, which is a digital instrument enterprise. So it’s nonetheless in music, nevertheless it’s utterly totally different from songwriting. However he makes like all the pattern music for it and stuff just like the demos that they launched to show about their devices. So he’s very fulfilled, he’s doing his dream and he’s now not songwriting anymore. So as soon as we began to comprehend that, we had been like, you already know, we don’t want to remain in Nashville and our children are on the age the place if we’re going to depart, we wanna take into consideration that now. We don’t wanna wait too lengthy as a result of I do know all mother and father have totally different opinions, however lots of people have informed me to attempt to get it finished as early as potential after which keep settled by means of their older years of faculty if potential. So anyway, final Christmas I bought actually bored the week after Christmas, as all of us do. And I used to be sitting on the pink home and I believe Jeremy was like working within the bed room on his songs for his firm. And I used to be like on Zillow and I do know all of it goes hill from right here. And I fell into this factor of, for days researching like mainly each metropolis within the US the place I’d wanna dwell, and, rapidly I wished to maneuver to New York. I discovered a neighborhood after which I simply fell down this rabbit gap that was months lengthy the place we had been critically contemplating transferring to New York. I bear in mind after I informed Emma we had been within the car parking zone of Shake Shack and she or he was like, nicely, I assume I’ll take pleasure in visiting you in New York she felt prefer it was simply inevitable.
Emma: Often when Elsie says she’s doing one thing, I imply, in all probability your husband feels totally different, however I’m simply sort of like, nicely, I assume she’s doing that, so yeah. I’m not gonna discuss her out of it. So, you already know, it’s simply taking place.
Elise: Yeah, we discovered this lovely, like I’m obsessed, excellent little neighborhood. And we visited there, we had a realtor, we did like all these steps and my husband was, Into it a little bit bit, however he was method, method, far more hesitant than I used to be. I used to be positively the one who was steamrolling the scenario a little bit bit and he was pondering it over nonetheless, I assume. After which final summer time we had a scenario the place one among our mother and father had a well being scare that was very critical and really scary, and I might say life-changing in similar to, it was a second for me to comprehend that this a part of our life isn’t going to final eternally and that I haven’t been spending the sort of time with my mother and father and nicely with my in-laws and my mother and father that I wish to spend. The opposite factor that additionally was changing into clear at the moment is that Emma has a little bit child and I used to be seeing him like 5 occasions a yr after I felt like I could possibly be seeing him like 50 occasions a yr or 100 occasions a yr. Once I see him, he doesn’t actually acknowledge me, which is like arduous for me as a result of clearly, I wanna be a giant a part of his life, however that’s not potential in a day-to-day method whenever you dwell in one other state. So possibly after they’re a little bit older it’s a little bit bit simpler, however that’s one other consideration I used to be pondering over. So, yeah, contemplating transferring to New York was like a dream within the metropolis method, however in a household method, it was in all probability gonna make our struggles even worse.
Emma: Yeah as a result of additionally there aren’t any direct flights from Springfield, Missouri, our hometown, the place each her mother and father dwell in her in-laws and likewise me, to New York. The closest metropolis you must go to for a direct flight I believe is Bentonville.
Elise: There are just about no direct flights wherever aside from Florida and one or two different locations.
Emma: Which, it’s not the top of the world to have a connecting flight, that’s actually not a giant deal. However it’s a time of yr when there’s dangerous climate. It simply will get dicey the place it may well sort of mess up your journey or make it the place your journey is longer, however you see your loved ones even much less, you already know what I imply? It’s simply one other problem.
Elise: So anyway, I’m gonna sort of simply skip over the New York half, however I wished to acknowledge it cuz it was sort of a giant a part of the yr. I informed in all probability dozens of those who we had been transferring there and we had been very critical about it for some time, nevertheless it wasn’t a long-lasting plan.
Emma: Effectively, what I believe’s humorous about that’s Elsie and I’ve been to New York Metropolis many occasions for work over time and for enjoyable. New York is clearly a extremely cool metropolis. Clearly, it’s very well-known. It’s in each single film ever of all time, mainly. So it’s actually cool, nevertheless it’s by no means a spot that both of us was ever simply dying to dwell in New York. I believe everybody has a pal who’s like, large cities are the place for me. And we had been by no means that method. In order that’s only one factor that I sort of like about you is that you’ll open up your coronary heart to one thing that you simply beforehand had been like, no. Like Elsie sort of has no drawback being like, oh, I used to be improper about that. And now I adore it. And I believe that’s sort of like a enjoyable factor about you.
Elise: Thanks. Yeah, no, I wished to dwell in a Victorian home in Brooklyn, which is fairly totally different from residing in like skyscraper in Manhattan or no matter. However yeah, it was unusual as a result of I by no means thought, however now I believe like that’s positively my coast. Like if ever sooner or later, you already know? I’m very interested in that a part of the nation proper now. At this level, I’m simply gonna like go to there 100 occasions as a result of it’s a great spot too. Anyway, so when our mother and father had the well being scare, and so my husband and I had a heart-to-heart. It was after we had gone on a household journey together with his household in the summertime. We do it like yearly for the 4th of July, and we had been driving house and we had a heart-to-heart the place he mentioned, would you contemplate transferring again to Springfield? And up till that time, in that complete eight years we had lived in Tennessee, I had numerous factors the place I used to be like, possibly we must always transfer again to Springfield as a result of there’s like, you possibly can’t dwell away out of your complete household with out having these factors now and again. It’s similar to regular. However he had by no means had that earlier than, he simply was very certain that he didn’t wanna transfer again.
Emma: He’s not a giant mover both. He’s sort of a settle-down sort of individual, you already know?
Elise: Yeah. So for no matter cause, as quickly as he mentioned it, I already knew that it was taking place, and I felt like my first response was anger as a result of I felt like I wasn’t getting a alternative. So I mentioned I simply want to consider it for a few weeks. So we bought house and I did my complete course of, which I assume I can clarify my Stalkery house course of. I did this in New York too, however I went on Zillow for our hometown and I mainly undergo each single road and take a look at each single home even when a home isn’t on the market, there’s like outdated photos from 5 years in the past or one thing of the final time it was on the market generally like 10 years in the past. And so I did that, there’s just about like one neighborhood in Springfield that we knew we favored, after which one different road. So just about all these homes, I’ve seen them if it’s potential too, after which we went there in individual a few weeks later and did some actually intense strolling excursions and driving by, of each single house. And we wrote down all of the addresses.
Emma: Couple of break-ins too. Simply kidding.
Elise: That’s humorous. And one thing I knew straight away was, I knew that we had been in all probability gonna transfer there. I used to be simply in a section of getting towards the acceptance of it. As a result of clearly, I wish to, I like being round Emma and having the ability to do our work collectively as a substitute of getting to continually journey or be actually restricted. Being round my nieces and nephews, there are a ton of them, are additionally all my children’ cousins. That could be a actually large factor for us. After which being round our mother and father is a giant factor. And I nonetheless have a grandma who resides, which is like the perfect factor ever. Anyway, I used to be open to it, however I used to be simply looking for a solution to trick my mind into not being unhappy as a result of I used to be actually connected to the concept of transferring to this sure neighborhood in New York and I had gotten too far alongside and it like emotionally invested. So I noticed {that a} home popping up that was quote-unquote excellent for what we had been searching for in all probability wasn’t going to occur due to the true property this previous yr. Anybody who’s been home buying is aware of, it’s just like the stock is sort of nothing. Like homes simply aren’t popping up after which when a very good one does pop up, it normally sells instantly. So we began pondering creatively as a result of as soon as we realized we had been gonna transfer, we had been like, okay, nicely we have to transfer both over Christmas or over summer time break due to children’, faculties, there’s no different time to maneuver and that’s necessary. So, I began doing letter writing. In the event you’ve ever heard of this, I’ll clarify what it’s in case you couldn’t think about that anybody would ever do that after which I’ll clarify precisely what we did. So I had heard about a few success tales up to now, however truthfully, for probably the most half, it doesn’t work. And I knew that however I additionally felt prefer it was the one choice I had in the meanwhile, and I wished to be proactive and do one thing as a result of simply ready and seeing that there have been no homes that we’d even take a look at for months and months and months and months that’s discouraging. So I used to be simply looking for a solution to transfer it ahead in my very own method.
Emma: Yeah. Plus what have you ever bought to, you already know, would possibly as nicely.
Elise: So we’d write letters. I believe we wrote a complete of both 4 or 5, I can’t bear in mind. So how I chosen the homes was just about simply by location and understanding if the home was like some homes, we might see outdated photos from the final time it offered, and in among the homes, we couldn’t see something. We simply knew the tough sq. footage or we might simply see it from the surface and we had been similar to, this might in all probability work. Yeah. We knew we wished a little bit little bit of a much bigger home as a result of we prefer to have each of our workspaces in our house. And that’s one thing that now that we’ve finished it so many occasions, we wouldn’t compromise once more on we don’t need places of work exterior of the house. Anyway, I picked a few homes after which my husband picked a few homes. And I wrote handwritten letters to the house owners. If I might discover their names, I put their names, however normally, you possibly can’t. I simply put proprietor and I knew it seemed like spam. So for individuals who dwell in any sort of a fascinating neighborhood, you’ll generally get these letters that sort of look handwritten, however additionally they look sort of faux the place it’s like, I wish to purchase your house. However you possibly can inform it’s not actual.
Emma: I’ve really additionally, like the primary home I ever purchased, which I talked about in a earlier episode a very long time in the past, we nonetheless personal it and it’s a long-term rental. I get letters on a regular basis that’s like not somebody who needs to purchase the home to dwell in it such as you. It’s extra similar to an investor, I assume. That’s simply wanting to purchase the home cuz it matches their standards or no matter prefer it’s in the precise neighborhood or no matter. And you may sort of all the time inform, cuz it does, it’ll say proprietor, it doesn’t normally say my title, however generally it says my title. And generally they’ll look a little bit extra handwritten, however you then open ’em up and it’s simply very like spammy. It’s similar to, we wanna purchase your home for the bottom potential value and maintain renting it and it’s like, okay, nicely I don’t wanna promote it proper now. So yeah, I believe folks get these letters they usually can come off sort of like spammy.
Elise: Yeah. So I might have my children draw on the surface of the envelope, like a little bit crown drawing, I felt like that was like a sign to indicate that it is a actual letter coming from an actual household. I didn’t put photos in it as a result of I simply personally hate it when folks ship photos after they’re making an attempt to purchase my homes. Like whenever you get gives with photos, I simply suppose they’re awkward, so I didn’t do this, however I do know lots of people suppose they’re candy and possibly I’m improper to say that. However I simply wrote mainly our household has been residing in Nashville for eight years and now we have determined to maneuver to our hometown over the following yr so in case you are in any respect and I like underlined in any respect, in promoting your home inside the subsequent yr, please let me know and I might love to debate. And if not, you’ve a lovely house, you already know all that. Have a very good day. After which I would go away my telephone quantity and my electronic mail. So I bought again three responses out of, I believe 4 or 5 letters. So I believed that was fairly good. The primary one was saying possibly subsequent yr, which was sort of the worst potential response as a result of it’s like you possibly can’t make any plan, however you’ve your hopes up a little bit bit. And I by no means heard from them once more. And it was similar to possibly subsequent yr, and the second was completely not , which I appreciated them sending me a textual content. And yeah, it wasn’t like actual pleasant, but in addition I get it they may not have recognized if I used to be an actual individual or not. After which, it could possibly be a scammer. After which the third one was, Emma was with me after I bought this textual content. It was Jeremy’s first alternative for a home, I’ll say that. To begin with. So it was like out of all the homes, it was in all probability the best-located home and it was a home that I all the time drove by and like lusted after as a 20-year-old and stuff. It was simply a kind of homes that you simply drive by in your hometown and also you’re like, what’s that one? Have you learnt what I imply? Such as you would like to go inside it kind of factor. They usually despatched me a textual content and it mentioned, relating to the property at blah, blah, blah, handle Elsie, I couldn’t consider after I opened your letter with all of the candy drawings out of your women, other than following a lovely mess for years, you photographed our wedding ceremony in 2004. I believe we would have been one of many final weddings after which she describes which wedding ceremony it’s after which she mentioned, my husband, Clean and I’ve been pondering of transferring for some time now. After which she describes loads of her private scenario of why they wanna transfer they usually say, we’d be comfortable to maneuver ahead and determine some particulars. Your letter has are available such a serendipitous method that I might love for this wonderful house to go to somebody like your loved ones, who I do know would treasure it. So, yeah. It was probably the greatest moments ever. And I had been asking the universe for an indication as a result of I used to be nonetheless experiencing loads of regret, and disappointment about, simply particularly not planning to maneuver to this neighborhood in Brooklyn anymore and I used to be nonetheless getting over that. So after I bought this textual content, I did take it as an indication that we had been on the precise path, as a result of I simply suppose that, I imply, I solely photographed weddings for like two years after I was in my early twenties. It was my first enterprise. I’ve by no means heard from anybody once more. It was only a actually very long time in the past, nearly 20 years. So, yeah, I took it as an awesome signal, after which, after that, we sort of stayed in contact and it took about six months to have the ability to really buy the home from them. So it was an extended course of, however I believe since that second I knew that it was meant to be and that we had been on the precise path.
Emma: Signal from the universe?
Elise: Sure. Okay. So we’re transferring this summer time and we’re simply ready to let our daughter get out of first grade earlier than we transfer, after which we’ll in all probability transfer in June-ish. And we’ve closed on our house in Missouri already. So now we’ve began doing a number of renovations there, and I don’t suppose it wants an overhaul. I discovered a giant lesson two years in the past after I began a giant main renovation in October. So for this house, I simply wanna transfer in a easy method and luxuriate in Halloween and luxuriate in Christmas. After which after that, I might see us beginning a giant renovation in possibly January or so. However I don’t wish to interrupt Christmas or the vacations like ever once more with renovating it wasn’t price it to fulfill in any respect. So, it’s gonna be a contented summer time. I noticed this week that now we have been planning this transfer and likewise we promised our daughter for her birthday in June that we’d get a pet. So then I noticed that like I believe I volunteered to get a pet the week that we transfer, which possibly wasn’t a good suggestion, however can also be now It’s form of set in stone. She’s actually enthusiastic about it.
Emma: Yeah. So she’s bought names picked out. It’s taking place. Yeah. It won’t be the perfect timing, however who’s ever gonna remorse getting a pet? Come on, what are you able to do?
Elise: It’s true. So yeah, I really feel like we bought our signal. We bought the proper home for us. So possibly I ought to describe the home just a bit bit. So we needed to wait two months after we first texted the house owners to enter the home in individual to look, and I might say, that the toughest a part of the entire course of was simply ready as a result of we had just about agreed with them that we’d purchase their house, however we had by no means seen it earlier than. And there have been some photos on-line that we might take a look at, however they had been older and we didn’t know, like how a lot had it been up to date since that point. So after we went in it for the primary time, the primary and solely time, it was October. It was such a surreal expertise. We took our children to my mother’s home for the day as a result of we didn’t need. Like, I don’t know. I believe it’s sort of arduous to have a look at a home with children, but in addition I wished them to see it for the primary time when it was both empty or with their stuff within the bedrooms. I believe it’s more durable to think about for little children when there’s like a totally furnished house. So a number of first impressions, the factor that we love concerning the house probably the most is the curb enchantment. It appears to be like sort of precisely like the house from the Household stone, the film has a little bit tiny little bit of father of the bride. It’s similar to the proper prefer it appears to be like like a film home from the surface, which is, it’s actually cute, which is like Final Elsie Dream. And, you already know, I like actually, actually wished an outdated house. So this house was constructed within the early 19 lots of and it is extremely outdated inside it. The skin of it is extremely conventional. I believe that it’s technically a colonial revival, however some folks take a look at it and suppose farmhouse too, cuz it has large porches that sort of wrap. After which on the within, it has a number of unimaginable unique options. It has a staircase that’s attractive on the entry. It has a fire within the kitchen, which is like my factor that I freaked out about after I noticed it and understood as a result of that’s one among my desires is having a fire within the kitchen. It’s similar to the fanciest, Nancy Meyers. Yeah. And aside from that, it has actually loads of potentials to be improved as a result of it’s been renovated rather a lot and it’s fairly plain. The options are fairly plain. There’s nearly no crown molding and issues like that that you’d count on from a house, from its period. So I might see us including much more like historic particulars, however something that we’re conserving, after which we will certainly add extra.
Emma: Have you ever purchased something for the home but? Like what was the very first thing to procure?
Elise: Ooh. Okay, to date we had our closing final week and I met with a wooden floors individual, so I bought that booked, which was thrilling and I picked a specialty wooden flooring for the entryway, which is sort of just like the diamond sample, you’ve in all probability seen them like a painted on diamond sample, however the one which we’re doing is with two colours of stain. So it’s a little bit bit extra delicate. I believe it’ll be actually fairly, I hope and the factor I’ve purchased to date is simply lighting fixtures. So I requested my in-laws if I might begin transport lighting fixtures to their house, and I don’t suppose they knew what they had been saying sure to. There are loads of bots within the house which have modernized lighting fixtures, so I’ve been shopping for nearly all vintage lighting fixtures to modify. After which a number of conventional ones, so possibly I can present a pair within the present notes this week. I believe that will likely be enjoyable. Principally, I’ve been looking for vintage ones from Etsy and that’s been loads of enjoyable. That’s in all probability one among my high favourite issues to buy vintage stuff for certain. I haven’t purchased anything but.
Emma: Effectively, what do you suppose you’re gonna miss most about your home that you simply’re presently residing in? Or possibly like what you’re gonna miss most about Nashville, Tennessee usually as a result of it’s such an awesome city.
Elise: Yeah. Okay. So what I’m gonna miss about Nashville, clearly, like I’ve some actually particular pals right here that I’m gonna miss. However so far as like companies, I’ve this restaurant known as spares, that’s my final, we go there for birthdays and celebrations and it’s actually particular. We love Dinos, there are loads of cute boutiques right here. Our pal has a boutique in East Asheville known as Apple and Oak. There are loads of particular locations that we’re gonna miss and positively Hewitt the backyard heart. It’s one among my final favourite locations I really like, I all the time joke that I moved to this facet of city to simply be subsequent to that Backyard Middle, which isn’t actually a lie. It’s wonderful. It’s so, so attractive. So I’m gonna miss so many issues, however so far as our house, I believe the hidden library is the factor that’s the toughest to go away. So we knew that we weren’t gonna keep at the start after we first began that renovation. So I’ve recognized the entire time. The opposite factor I’m gonna actually miss about this house is the library eating room. I used to be so pleased with that, I had a lot enjoyable placing it collectively, and nearly all of the books are spooky. It was enjoyable, that was a dream mission. And general, I really like this house. If we had been staying in Tennessee, I might keep right here eternally. It’s a very good house and it actually works. I’m gonna miss so many issues about it. And somebody requested me like in the event you might transport your house, would you, and like in comparison with the house that we’re transferring to, I believe I nonetheless simply wished an outdated house so dangerous that I possibly would swap, however that’s actually the one factor. The one cause so many individuals don’t even like outdated houses, you already know? The place we dwell in Tennessee it’s not an outdated house space, it’s a brand new house space. It’s like every little thing’s new and it appears to be like very nice. And so I believe that whoever strikes right here will adore it for what it’s. They usually’re in all probability not an individual who needs like 120-year-old house.
Emma: However hopefully they need a really embellished house cuz yours finished. Which is good, I believe. However thanks.
Elise: It’s been enjoyable displaying it. We’ve been engaged on promoting it for some time and the suggestions is normally very nice, however for lots of people, I do suppose it’s loads of wallpaper and stuff. So I believe that the house will should be both renovated or going to somebody who likes wallpaper however I don’t have any regrets in any respect about that. Although I do know not everybody likes wallpaper. I simply suppose it appears to be like so good on this house. So I might fairly it go to somebody who simply sees that and likes it. However you already know, in the end I don’t get to choose and it sort of doesn’t matter. It’s not gonna be my house anymore.
Emma: Yeah. Effectively, it’s not the costliest factor to take away the wallpaper in the event you don’t like wallpaper. Yeah, I imply, there are far more costly adjustments you possibly can have made these folks would’ve been like, oh, nicely, you already know, that’s like true ripping out tile or backsplashes or counter tops, these are far more costly than wallpaper.
Elise: However yeah, we’re positively gonna miss it. And it’s like positively unhappy. And I might see us coming to Nashville lots sooner or later, and we all the time got here right here lots earlier than we lived right here. It’s an awesome place. I don’t really feel able to say goodbye to it in any respect, so I’m simply not going to.
Emma: Yeah, Nashville is superior. I’m certain we’ll go to loads. It’ll be enjoyable. And in some methods too, cuz you’ll have like sort of contemporary eyes.
Elise: That’s true. There are much more lodges in Nashville now. After we first moved right here, there have been one or two cool lodges. Now there are like 10. So I believe that’s cool too. We are able to come keep in one of many fancy new lodges and get room service and that’ll be actually totally different.
Emma: Yeah, and you’ve got fairly a number of like actually good pals there, so it’s not such as you’ll by no means go to cuz you’ll wanna see your folks. So yeah, like Ting and Jason. So anyway, I’ll say a few issues I’m enthusiastic about.
Elise: Oh yeah. I wanna hear. Everybody needs to listen to your perspective. That’s just like the primary factor folks ask me is how does Emma really feel? What does Emma suppose? So say it.
Emma: Oh, that’s candy. I believed it was cool that you simply wished to dwell in New York. Like I mentioned, I believe it was neat how a lot you had modified your thoughts on it from different occasions we’d visited New York and I might’ve beloved visiting you there. However I bear in mind whenever you informed me, I bear in mind pondering. Oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. Not as a result of I don’t wanna go to New York or as a result of it’s an excessive amount of cash or one thing, however ever since I had Oscar, I simply have visited Nashville lots much less. It’s simply arduous to be away from him. And naturally, we’ve introduced Oscar to Nashville a number of occasions, and we’ll keep for longer when now we have him there with us. However that’s additionally sort of difficult otherwise too, you already know? So I used to be similar to, oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. So I believe that the factor that I’m most enthusiastic about with you transferring house is I’ll get to see you extra, which is nice for work in fact as a result of we will batch work collectively fairly quickly we’re eager to do the factor with our podcast the place we document collectively and we will movie it so we will put it on like YouTube or various things like that, which I believe will likely be actually enjoyable. However greater than something, I’ve simply felt like since I grew to become a mother, I’ve lots much less time to be an aunt and it makes me actually unhappy as a result of I really like being an aunt. It’s the perfect, and I simply don’t depart house as a lot or as actually because after I do, I don’t see my son, and that’s all the time arduous. And so understanding that you simply guys will likely be on the town, it’s like, oh, nicely I can simply deliver him over Saturday mornings and I can decide up some McDonald’s hash browns on the best way, and I’ll be goldie’s hero. It’s simply simpler. It is going to be a lot simpler to get in some ant time, after which additionally simpler for work stuff too. In order that’s actually thrilling. And I really feel like we talked about this sooner or later, however, so after faculty, I moved to Los Angeles for a number of years, solely like three years. So not so long as you’ve lived in Nashville in any respect and it’s a very totally different season of my life. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have children. Complete totally different age, blah, blah, blah. However I bear in mind after I moved house feeling sort of melancholy about it at first. Not as a result of I didn’t like Springfield, cuz I used to be excited to maneuver house and work with you. We had been actually beginning a lovely mess again then, which it’s really known as Purple Velvet, we had a neighborhood retailer. We do various issues with it. However anyway, so I used to be enthusiastic about that. I used to be excited to see my household extra. However I believe one thing about residing within the city you grew up in, one thing about it feels a little bit bit like, oh, I didn’t make it farther than this. Have you learnt what I imply? Just like the literal distance, which now that I’m, possibly you don’t really feel this fashion cuz you’re older and extra mature than I used to be at that age. I believe I used to be like 25 or six when this was occur. However now I don’t actually even really feel prefer it issues the place I dwell. I believe by way of much more of like what I need from life so far as like a profession and a household. And to me, residing someplace that’s a little bit bit simpler to see household and simply being trustworthy right here, a little bit bit cheaper than another areas of the nation. It makes it simpler to journey and see issues that I possibly wouldn’t see as a result of if I used to be residing in a dearer place, which for me Los Angeles was much more costly than residing in Springfield, Missouri, I simply didn’t have as a lot cash to do issues that I wished to do. And I believe that’s modified with each time and age, but in addition similar to the world. So, anyway. I don’t actually know the place I’m going with this, I’m simply form of saying some possibly encouraging issues, possibly not, I don’t know, however similar to, I don’t know. I believe generally it feels a little bit melancholy to maneuver again to the place you’re from, nevertheless it’s really been probably the greatest issues I ever did and I hope it feels that method for you. I believe it’s going to.
Elise: Thanks for sharing that. That’s actually candy. Yeah, I nearly didn’t put the New York half into the story. I don’t really feel able to leaving it out. That’s why I put it in, however I nearly didn’t put it in as a result of I don’t wish to get 1,000,000 feedback which can be like, it’s best to have moved to New York. I do know that it’s a larger metropolis with extra alternatives for my youngsters, like a extra thrilling place. Like I do know that clearly. I didn’t need them to be in contrast as a result of you possibly can’t evaluate them and they need to by no means be in contrast. A small city in Missouri ought to by no means be in comparison with New York Metropolis. However for me I don’t really feel unhappy, I don’t suppose in the identical method, however the cause why one among our large causes was that after getting children and now we have a dedication to seeing our household being there for the vacations, being there, there are a number of occasions all year long after we’re all the time in Missouri. So we just about felt like we lived in Nashville, however we spent all of our trip time going to Missouri and we actually did, partly it was due to Covid, however partly it’s simply because we don’t have sufficient capability. We’ve hardly traveled wherever with our children in addition to going to Missouri time and again for the previous 4 years. That is among the causes, I don’t know if it’s a cause why we’re transferring, nevertheless it’s a giant benefit of it or a giant professional from the professionals and cons checklist. Is that we received’t must journey anymore for Christmas and for each single summer time. We normally go about 4 or 5 occasions a yr and as a substitute of getting to satisfy these obligations, we’d have the ability to go to different locations, which is what we actually wish to do. After which for these holidays and stuff, we’d simply already be there as a result of we dwell there. I believe that was a fairly compelling cause for us as a result of we do wanna journey with our children and we wish to go to a a lot larger number of locations. And after we considered residing in New York, which is a spot with an enormous quantity of tradition and alternatives for our children. However we wouldn’t actually have the ability to go wherever aside from staying there and going again to Missouri on a regular basis to satisfy our obligation. So anyway, that’s for certain a giant cause. And anybody who lives away out of your hometown, away from your loved ones, who has children I do know, understands, it’s an advanced give and take and that we’re all simply making an attempt to make these two issues join.
Emma: Yeah. And there’s like no excellent place to dwell usually. And likewise like anybody who would go away you a remark like, it’s best to dwell right here fairly than right here to your children. That’s simply foolish. They don’t know your children, they’re not their mother and father. That’s simply ridiculous. So I don’t suppose you really want to fret about that. I believe you’re giving your children an awesome childhood and many alternatives to see their household, to see various things on this planet to develop their pursuits. I’m not apprehensive about them, so that you don’t should be both.
Elise: Thanks. We’re doing our greatest and it’s positively the happiest time of my life I’m enthusiastic about this subsequent season. I believe that we’ll have the ability to obtain loads of our targets and have the ability to give a little bit bit extra to our children by way of household time, touring, yeah, numerous various things. So we had a factor down right here that was like, how is that this gonna have an effect on a lovely mess or a podcast? So yeah, I believe that it’s gonna have an effect on a lovely mess in a fairly considerably constructive method. Emma wouldn’t say this, however I can admit it, that she was like, carrying every little thing for a very long time, particularly since I had children. However truthfully earlier than that too, she all the time visited me much more than I visited her and she or he would come for devoted work time. Once I would come to Missouri, I wouldn’t have time to work cuz we’d be doing all of our household obligations. I believe that Emma was making it work for us to work lengthy distance, after which when she grew to become a mother, it began to turn into clear that I couldn’t simply ask her to return anytime I wished anymore and that wasn’t going to maintain working. So we simply weren’t gonna see one another as a lot, which additionally is okay. I believe that we might have stored working lengthy distance. I don’t suppose it was dysfunctional like we bought good at it, however I believe that so far as eager to be a quote unquote model collectively, simply taking pictures and movies collectively is a lot more durable whenever you’re combining it into like 5 occasions a yr that you simply see one another. Have you learnt what I imply? Then when you are able to do it on a daily Tuesday. So I do suppose that it’ll in all probability have an effect on our weblog enterprise and the podcast in a extremely constructive method, simply because the comfort stage is gonna go up a hundredfold. Yeah. And we’re gonna begin doing the video podcast, which I’m enthusiastic about. We’re gonna begin recording collectively in individual. We’ve finished it earlier than a number of occasions. It’s kinda like good like I believe the power is a little bit bit totally different and I don’t know, I’m used to this, so I don’t really feel like there’s like an issue with it. I believe we’ll simply be like in a extra comfy routine and I believe it’ll come off that solution to our viewers.
Emma: Yeah. I don’t know if it’s gonna really feel that totally different for our viewers. I believe it’s going to, however I believe greater than you suppose they’ll discover something. I believe greater than something it’ll really feel higher to us. It’ll simply be simpler in some methods, and possibly they received’t even see it, which is completely fantastic. You don’t must see how simple or arduous work is. However hopefully, it all the time appears simple from the surface. However I believe it will likely be, I believe it’ll really feel simpler for us. In order that’ll be good. It’ll be nice. It’ll be superior.
Elise: I believe so too. I’m excited. I really feel like, I’m additionally nonetheless shocked, like I’m nonetheless so shocked that it’s even taking place, however I believe it’s gonna be wonderful and, I can’t wait to indicate the home, so I’ll put a little bit one thing on my Instagram right now, so you possibly can see just a bit peek and yeah, over the following few months we’ll share much more. I’m not like Emma, I don’t really feel as personal about my home. I like sharing it for enjoyable. I’m so excited. Effectively, let’s go on then to our new phase. A joke or a reality with Nova. All proper. We’re prepared for a joke or a reality with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: So I’m going to just do jokes right now. Okay. After which subsequent week I’m gonna begin my reality and jokes. Okay. So why did a cookie go to the physician? As a result of he was feeling a little bit bit crummy. Oh, that’s a very good one. And the way do you propose a celebration in house, you planet.
Elsie: All proper. Thanks a lot for listening. I’m so excited to share this journey with you. Subsequent week we’ll be again for half two, sharing extra particulars about long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee house able to checklist, and what’s taking place with the Pink Home. We’ll even be sharing our ebook report for this time tomorrow. So in the event you’re studying in real-time, right here is your warning.
Emma: End your ebook. Individuals had been speaking about it.